Sunday, September 2, 2007
Learning Southernese
And so I'm thinking--what might people want to know about what we are doing here in South Carolina? I loved relaying information and pictures from Ireland when Michael and The Boys were on their golfing trip. I had lots of fun sorting through the many pictures I took of Gabby, Molly, and David's visit, of course, and I'm sure more of those will show up on the website one of these days. But since all of my family and old friends are "Yankees", maybe you all would like to know something about how we're learning to be Southerners.
One of our biggest challenges has been learning to speak what I call "Southernese". Lots of one syllable words here are pronounced with at least a two-syllable--or more--inflection. "Like" and "this" roll slowly off the tongue and become "lii-iike" and thii-iss". My first name now has three syllables: "Jay-Ann-Net", and Michael is "Ma-ahh-Kuul". Sweet Tea ( a true staple of life here in the South) has not two, but four syllables: "suh-weet tay-ee". Of course, dropping a syllable is also a part of Southernese--Coca Cola is "co cola" here in the Low Country. I haven't figured out the syllables on "purtinear" yet, but I do know that it means something like being close to whatever I asked about. ("I'm "purtinear" done with this beer--y'all want 'nother?")
Don't get me wrong...I love living in the South. For the most part, the food is fabulous as my broadening body can attest. Before moving here, I ate sweet potatoes with a little brown sugar stirred in and marshmallows on top for Thanksgiving dinner. This past year I have eaten sweet potato chips, fries, salad, pie and an assortment of sweet potato casseroles with pecans (pee-cans, not pe-chans) all over the top. The seafood is awesome here in Murrells Inlet, the self-advertised "Seafood Capital of South Carolina". Fresh grouper and shrimp are plentiful and reasonably-priced, and it wouldn't be Monday at the Dead Dog Saloon without a couple of pounds of cold peel-and-eats with our friend Pete's more-horseradish-than-ketchup-sauce! And we are no longer on a quest for the world's best onion rings--now we are searching for the best lump crabcakes. So far Frank's Outback in Pawley's Island is at the top of the list.
My real Southern friends--those who were raised in the South--are appalled that I still have not developed a taste for grits. My friend Priscilla keeps trying to tell me how good the Shrimp and Grits are at various restaurants, but I can't help thinking that it is a waste of perfectly good shrimp to mix them with grits! "Frogmore Stew" sounded perfectly awful--I couldn't see liking frog of any kind in my stew, let alone "more frog". Ever the adventurous one, however, I was pleased to discover that "frogmore stew" is actually a wonderful sort of Southern "Bouillabaisse" made with fresh shrimp, hot sausages, red potatoes and fresh corn-on-the-cob. (Must use the cob, too--very important!)Every good Southern cook has their handed-down-for-generations recipe for frogmore stew and for "bog". When I first heard of "bog", I expected something with cranberries--as from a cranberry bog. Bog here, however, proved to be another sort of stew made with chicken, sausage, and rice. There are as many ways to make bog and frogmore stew as there are Southern ladies--and each one is convinced their family's recipe is the best!
She Crab soup has been a delightful discovery, though I've yet to find anyone who can tell me what makes a "she-crab" better than a "he-crab" for this creamy rich soup. Grouper bites are a staple of any good appetizer menu, as are oysters any way, shape or form. I love oysters any way I can get them, but Michael still adamantly refuses to eat them. Those of you who know him well remember his rule: he eats nothing that in its' natural state was a "filter". That, of course leaves out oysters, clams, liver, etc. 'Seems to me he is missing out on some very good taste treats, but that's his loss.
Of course, real Low Country food is fried. Fried fish, fried apples, fried green tomatoes (Yum!), fried green beans (questionable), fried dill pickles (no thanks!), and of course the ever-present fried hush puppies. I'm firmly convinced there is no redeeming value to a hush puppy--but gosh, they sure taste good with honey butter! Along with okra and collard greens, I have discovered "chow-chow", for which there are also hundreds of recipes, each with its own special "secret" ingredient. It is a sort of relish made with cabbage, onions, green and red peppers, spices, and lots of salt. It is traditionally served atop a bowl of pinto beans, but I prefer to pile it on my hot dog. It's sort of like sauerkraut, but not really--similar, yet different! And did you know that in the South hot dogs are always served with cole slaw? Not on the side, you understand--on the hot dog! Quite tasty, actually! And I was nearly thrown off the Plantation one day when I suggested that Hellman's mayonnaise might be just as good as Duke's Mayonnaise. What was I thinking??!
And finally, let me assure you that all males are not named "Bubba" here in our new home, and not all women have double first names like Mary Elizabeth or Laura Sue. Southern hospitality is alive and well, and I must say it is rather nice to be called "Mam", and I don't even mind when one of the "good ol' boys" calls me "Baby Doll"! Somehow it seems just fine coupled with his fine "southern gentleman" manners. I do think the phrase I like most and have found most helpful is "y'all"--it just works so nicely into any social setting. Whether it is the kids at school, or the members at the club, or Michael, "y'all" just seems to fit. But then y'all knew that--din't ya?
Friday, August 24, 2007
Late Night Ramblings
Today was not such a good day. Sad news about loved ones has reached us, and I am sodden with melancholy tonight. I awakened at 3:00 this morning with dark feelings that I could not seem to shake. We had received news last night that another of our family members has been diagnosed with breast cancer. Early stages. We expect a good prognosis. Still scary.
Michael has three brothers. Of the four wives of those brothers, two have been stricken with this vile disease. Are these the statistics now I wonder? Is it the fate of two out of every four women to develop breast cancer? A little research tells me that the actual numbers are not quite this high, but I consider the number of women I know both casually and intimately that are affected by it, and think the "stats" may be wrong.
Why these two younger-than-I vibrant ladies and not me? Do I just have good genes? Have I taken better care of myself? (I know the answer to that one--NOT!) Am I just lucky? (Most likely.) Or perhaps I truly am blessed. (If so, I don't know why.) I can't possibly answer that question tonight, and I doubt if I'll have any more insight tomorrow. I just know that sometimes we get laden with worries and woes about our everyday lives and the lives of those close to us and we lose sight of the real picture. The stresses of our day-to-day existence begin to weigh us down. And then a couple of days like yesterday and today come along, and I am humbled by my self-absorption. Shame on me.
Today more sad news. We received word that the son of one of our oldest, dearest friends had passed away. The young man's life has always been a struggle, and tonight we pray that he is at last at peace. And we pray that his parents, our friends, will finally have some peace as well. Their lives have not been smooth these past few years, and though they are many, many miles away, I long to hold them and in some small way comfort them. Hopefully they feel our love and know that we grieve with them.
And so the sadness lingers on tonight. I am sad that my friends are feeling the most intense loss of all, the loss of a child. I am sad that my sisters-in-law whom we love so much have to cope with disease and the unknown. I am sad that I am not closer to any of them to hold their hand or to cry with them, or perhaps to just make them smile. Why is it that sorrow is so easy to express and yet so hard to tell? (Does that make sense to anyone except me? Probably not. It was just a thought that came to me and wanted to get out.)
Tonight I want to sleep. All night. No bad thoughts. No bad dreams. No dark melancholia. No 3:00 AM wanderings. But first I want my friends and loved ones who are hurting--and also my friends and loved ones who are happy and content this night to know that I love them and share their pain, their fear, their sorrow, their joy, their peace. From the haunting beauty here in the Low country of South Carolina to the plains of the Midwest and the mountains and deserts of the West, please know that this night I am reaching out to you all. It is true that the words we most want to say are difficult to find sometimes. Their journey begins far, far away in the heart. But Dear Ones, just know that they are there, nestled up against the love.
Love and Blessings to you all.
Janet
Sunday, August 19, 2007
Sunday Night Reflections
Friday, August 10, 2007
Carolina Girls!
Gabby and her Mom have always been a joy to photograph and today I give thanks for the wonders of digital photography! I can just keep snapping and snapping and sometimes some of the most magical things appear! Gabby on the beach at Huntington State Park is a joy to behold. Despite the unfortunate encounter with a not-so-friendly jellyfish, she is so at home in the waters of the Atlantic and on this beach. Her curious nature and love of all living things makes my heart sing.
Of all the lovely places that our lives have taken us, this unspoiled beach in South Carolina may be the place we were supposed to be all along. Who could have guessed that the road through South Dakota, Nebraska, Utah, California, Washington, and Colorado was going to lead us here? But my heart is happy here in the warm salt air, and after only a year, it so feels like home. My only regret is that our family is not closer to spend more time with us. But we are thankful for these wonderful days with Molly and Gabby, and now David has come to join the fun! Soon Chad, Rachel, and the boys will pay us a visit, and perhaps even Jason and Brayden will get to come before too many months go by. So this week we will appreciate the sunstreaked faces of those loved ones that are here enjoying the beauty of the Lowcountry!
Sunday, August 5, 2007
Changing and Not-So-Changing Things
Although I know that change is really the only constant thing in our lives, it occurred to me as I watched my girls at the beach yesterday, that some things do indeed never change. They both have always loved all things associated with water. Like her mother before her, Gabby is on swim team and dive team, and she truly seems more at home near and in the water than anywhere else. Both Molly and Gabby swam before they walked--always underwater, with eyes wide open, and big smiles on their faces!
Friday, August 3, 2007
The Girls are Here!
As I write this, it is 10:30 on Friday morning, and I have the car packed with the beach chairs, towels and coolers. Unfortunately, you can see from the photo that Miss Gabrielle appears to be on Seattle time. She and Bunny are still snoozing soundly. I did manage to awaken her mother, though, and surely Ms Gabby will arise soon. We are going to spend some time at the beach today, although the afternoon showers that seem to appear all too regularly this time of year promise to grace us with their presence a bit earlier than usual.
Michael is working today, of course, but we will get him to the beach one day soon, too. David arrives next Wednesday. We are so excited to have at least some of our family with us. We are anxious to show them the beauty and the rich history of this wonderful new state that we now call home. I'll try to keep you all posted with pictures throughout the next couple of weeks!
Monday, July 30, 2007
Sunset on the 18th at Doonbeg
I love this picture of some of the boys on the 18th hole at Doonbeg. It was late in the evening--around 9:30 PM, and the beauty of the setting sun reflecting off the sea onto the green takes my breath away. Nelson appears to be contemplating something very serious. Now it could be that he had just missed a putt, or he could be just waiting for their 4th to finally finish putting, or--I'll let you all decide your own interpretation of the picture. Whatever it is--it is beautiful, and I believe it is a good representation of The Boys' entire journey to Ireland. The beauty, the history, the fellowship of the game are all reflected here in the late evening shadows.
Their return Saturday night was smooth and uneventful. Boys, luggage, and clubs all arrived in Myrtle Beach intact and on time. They were all a bit tired, of course, but their wind-burned faces were smiling and happy. I know for Michael it was the trip of a lifetime. They couldn't say enough about the quality of the hotels they stayed in, the kindness and delightful spirit of the Irish people, and most of all the marvelous golf courses. They were blessed with a few days of wonderful weather early in the week, but they also experienced the true blustery winds and rains for which Irish golf is so famous. You know it is said that it only rains twice a year in Ireland: August through April and May through July! But our Wachesaw Warriors are proud to say that they never quit--through howling wind and pelting raindrops. (Except for four who finally gave up the last two holes in the squall at Old Head--but those four shall remain nameless here and their secret is forever safe!)
Michael has the most beautiful pictures documenting each day's golf course and the countryside, including castles and ruins aplenty for me to ogle over! He promises to compile a CD of the very best ones and I'm encouraging him to write a brief commentary for each one. (Do any of you really think Michael could be "brief" about something he is so passionate about?!) But truly, I would love for you all to see them. I'm not sure that any other place could have so much beauty and history as does this Land of the Leprechauns.
Molly and Gabby are coming later this week for a two-week visit, and David is coming to join them next week. We are excited to see at least some of our family, and will be surely posting some pictures of their first visit to South Carolina! I hope you all are keeping up with Chad, Rachel, Jake and Brodie via Rachel's blog. http://kahlercrew.blogspot.com She's got some pretty cute pictures of the boys and their new home in Tucson.
Friday, July 27, 2007
Old Boys at Old Head
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Just a quick update on the Ireland boys this Thursday morning. Michael reported early today that the wireless connection at the hotel was down, which explains why we had no pictures or reports yesterday. They played Old Head yesterday and Dooks on Tuesday. I'm sure there are plenty of pictures and stories to report from their adventures at both courses. I will be certain to pass them along when I get them.
Today they are at Tralee, which is the Arnold Palmer course that has received so much acclaim. Pictured here is the view from the second tee box. The beach you see is the beach on which the 1970 David Lean movie Ryan's Daughter was filmed. (Ok, you Movie Trivia buffs--can you recall the plot and the stars? Someone won an Oscar for their work: does anyone know who?) It was also used for portions of the not-so-great 1992 Far and Away with Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman. Perhaps it is better left as a backdrop for a magnificent golf course!
Tralee is an Arnold Palmer-designed course and is the fourth incarnation of Tralee Golf club, which was founded in 1896. Palmer and Ed Seay began designing this latest version in the early 80s. Barrow Point, the strip of land in Barrow on which the course was laid out, is a mixed geographical bag. It has some very high dunes, wide white beaches, inlets and according to the travel folders, "some of the most eye-popping scenery of mountains and ocean you will see in all of Ireland."
So we will all look forward to pictures and tales of their golfing prowess not only at Tralee, but Old Head and Dooks as well. I checked the weather at Tralee today, and once again it appears they are blessed with partly sunny 63-degree skies. Those Golf Gods--who knew they would be so nice to our Wachesaw Boys?
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
The Boys at Ballybunion
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Day 2: Luggage and Clubs!
Despite the trouble with their gear, they had a marvelous day yesterday. Following is the email he sent me late last night about their round at Lahinch:
"It was an absolutely spectacular day today. Our caddie said it was the first day that he had caddied in a tee shirt since June 10th. I bought a rain shirt at the Golf Shop at Lahinch today, but never put it on. Sun was out most of the day. Also had to buy golf balls, glove, hat and rental clubs. We are going to try to get Delta to pay for all of this. Indications are that they will.
Jerry Blount and I won the daily event today.........we beat Lopez and Rickey Baker by two Quota points. I shot 77 with two double bogeys. You hit it in the rough and it is a double bogey!
The golf course was unbelievable. I started crying walking down the second fairway towards the Irish Sea. I just couldn't believe that I was here. I tried to make a toast tonight at dinner, but couldn't get through that either."
This morning he reported that they had their luggage and were heading to Doonbeg to play. Tonight they will be back at the Lodge at Lahinch, and then tomorrow they leave there and head to Ballybunion. They are staying at only two hotels while they are in Ireland. It is so nice to not have to keep moving every day!
I am hoping for some more pictures this evening or tomorrow. He sent these of Lahinch in this morning's email. I will continue to post them on the blog as they come in.
Until the next update,
Janet
Saturday, July 21, 2007
Michael and The Boys in Ireland!
The bad news is that not a single piece of their luggage--including all eight sets of golf clubs--is in Ireland with them! After a two-hour delay getting out of Myrtle Beach yesterday, they barely made their flight in Atlanta, and none of the luggage made it. Delta doesn't seem to have any idea when it might show up on the Emerald Isle. (Gee, I wonder why they are in bankruptcy?) When Michael emailed me early this morning, their coach driver Maurice was out making arrangements for rental clubs for their 3:30 tee time this afternoon at Lahinch. As I write this, it is 10:30 here on the East Coast, and if my calculations are correct, they should be on the first tee right now. I haven't had an email for a couple of hours, so I suspect that is true. (Isn't it nice to know that the www really is the "world wide web"?!) They are five hours ahead of us here in South Carolina, and you all can adjust that accordingly with your time zones! I'm sure they will still have a wonderful time, and of course a few pints of Guinness can make a lot of things better!
I will keep you posted on their activities. (Well, at least the ones they tell me about!) I was hoping to get some pictures from their adventure, but I'm not sure Michael remembered to take the cardreader to upload them from the camera to his laptop. We may have to wait until their return to see pictures. He seemed to be more concerned about getting everyone on the plane with all the proper credentials than he was about what I felt was really important! Imagine that.
We'll see how this "blogging" goes--I think it might be a wonderful way to keep in touch with all of you without loading up your email accounts. With the kids coming in a couple of weeks, I will have lots of pictures to show you. I'm not really sure what I'm doing, however, and my two computer gurus, Chad and Michael, are many miles away! So bear with me!
Be sure to bookmark the website into your Favorites! I will report more later! Today they play Lahinch, tomorrow Doonbeg, I believe. Then it is off to Ballybunion in Killarney. (Hopefully with their own golf clubs, but I'll bet they play anyway, no matter what kind of clubs they have to use!)
Love to all,
Janet